Well to start of I have never really been in this kind of situation before, but there are few ideas that pop up in my head to help a friend or family member would be to first distract them from the unfortunate situation that took a toll on them, maybe by reminding them of good times or smothering with them there desires and my the thing I think is the most important thing to remember is that every action you do should not remind them of 'the incident'. thats the best I got ( as you you can see I am not the best buddy at these situations).
I would do something really similar to Krishna. I would crack jokes and talk about all the good things he has in his life. Maybe make him meet some of my friends so that he does not feel lonely and he has got company. Call him to my house and play video games and go cycling. I would make him feel he is not alone and i am there for him to support him.
If I were Billie Jo's friend then I would comfort her and try to make her as happy as she could ever be. Obviously her mother's death cannot be changed but her attitude can change and I want to be the friend who does that for her. She needs a person who can be there to play with or talk with or just hang around with and I'm the person she could have.
I disagree to what Gautham and Krishna said, which was to ignore her mother's death, distract her and never talk about it. I think as Billie Jo's friend I wouldn't let the topic unspoken, me ignoring it wouldn't make her ignore it at all. Plus it is an event that changed her life completely, sooner or later situations will come up where it would be inevitable not mention it.
Even if talking about it would make her very sad, or even cry, Billie has to speak about it to someone and can't keep it inside herself forever. It has happened to me before and believe me after my friend whined it all out she felt much better and could only then enjoy all the jokes and fun I had to offer.
Billie Jo herself said that she knew people were trying to not talk about it right into her face, but she could still hear them. Which means that maybe you don't event succeed with hiding it to her.
Becoming a good friend of Billie Jo's wouldn't be easy because once talking to them wouldn't make everything good again.
A true friend of Billie Jo's is Mad Dog, who even after the accident thought of her as the same person he'd always known.
As Billie Jo's friend, I would let her explain her thoughts to me and help her resolve them. If she feels that she is at fault for the incident, I would explain to her how that the entire event isn't anyone's fault but just something that was bound to happen and for a reason. I disagree with Krishna and Gautham, though I know they have not been in a situation like this before. I, however, definitely agree with Daniela and Akane as what they say is absolutely true. An event like death can be hard to let go and if you try too hard to distract Billie Jo from it she may not like it or the incident may picture in her head if she has flashbacks. What any friend should do is try to help her resolve her problems with the accident and tell her the truth. If she can accept what has happened, there will be no need for distractions.
Billie Jo's friends are mainly Mad dog, Livie, and Arely Wonderdale.
I also agree with what Daniela and Akane said but I also agree with what Krishna and Gautham said, because I can't just let her keep thinking about the accident and also I can't just let her not thinking about the accident.
I will tell her everything will be alright and there is nothing to worry about ,but only for few days. I will wait until she is comfortable with talking about the accident. When she speaks about it, then I will ask about her thoughts and what she want me to help her to go through everything and I will do my best to help her.
At this point in the story Billie Jo doesnt really have any true friends except of course Mad Dog and Arley.
If I was there with Billie Jo I would of course comfort her. I would give her space when she needed it. I would be her shoulder to cry on and her pillow to punch at. But I think the most important thing is to let the wound heal itself. Losing a mother can cause lots of pain. And the pain can only go away if the person chooses it to. So if I would go everyday to Billie Jo and say "Everything is going to be fine," it will keep on reminding her about it.
I would let her cry all her tears out. And when she is ready to stand back up agian, I would support her with all my might.
Well to start of I have never really been in this kind of situation before, but there are few ideas that pop up in my head to help a friend or family member would be to first distract them from the unfortunate situation that took a toll on them, maybe by reminding them of good times or smothering with them there desires and my the thing I think is the most important thing to remember is that every action you do should not remind them of 'the incident'. thats the best I got ( as you you can see I am not the best buddy at these situations).
ReplyDeleteI would do something really similar to Krishna. I would crack jokes and talk about all the good things he has in his life. Maybe make him meet some of my friends so that he does not feel lonely and he has got company. Call him to my house and play video games and go cycling. I would make him feel he is not alone and i am there for him to support him.
ReplyDeleteIf I were Billie Jo's friend then I would comfort her and try to make her as happy as she could ever be. Obviously her mother's death cannot be changed but her attitude can change and I want to be the friend who does that for her. She needs a person who can be there to play with or talk with or just hang around with and I'm the person she could have.
ReplyDeleteI disagree to what Gautham and Krishna said, which was to ignore her mother's death, distract her and never talk about it. I think as Billie Jo's friend I wouldn't let the topic unspoken, me ignoring it wouldn't make her ignore it at all. Plus it is an event that changed her life completely, sooner or later situations will come up where it would be inevitable not mention it.
ReplyDeleteEven if talking about it would make her very sad, or even cry, Billie has to speak about it to someone and can't keep it inside herself forever. It has happened to me before and believe me after my friend whined it all out she felt much better and could only then enjoy all the jokes and fun I had to offer.
Billie Jo herself said that she knew people were trying to not talk about it right into her face, but she could still hear them. Which means that maybe you don't event succeed with hiding it to her.
Becoming a good friend of Billie Jo's wouldn't be easy because once talking to them wouldn't make everything good again.
A true friend of Billie Jo's is Mad Dog, who even after the accident thought of her as the same person he'd always known.
As Billie Jo's friend, I would let her explain her thoughts to me and help her resolve them. If she feels that she is at fault for the incident, I would explain to her how that the entire event isn't anyone's fault but just something that was bound to happen and for a reason. I disagree with Krishna and Gautham, though I know they have not been in a situation like this before. I, however, definitely agree with Daniela and Akane as what they say is absolutely true. An event like death can be hard to let go and if you try too hard to distract Billie Jo from it she may not like it or the incident may picture in her head if she has flashbacks. What any friend should do is try to help her resolve her problems with the accident and tell her the truth. If she can accept what has happened, there will be no need for distractions.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you!
ReplyDeleteBillie Jo's friends are mainly Mad dog, Livie, and Arely Wonderdale.
ReplyDeleteI also agree with what Daniela and Akane said but I also agree with what Krishna and Gautham said, because I can't just let her keep thinking about the accident and also I can't just let her not thinking about the accident.
I will tell her everything will be alright and there is nothing to worry about ,but only for few days. I will wait until she is comfortable with talking about the accident. When she speaks about it, then I will ask about her thoughts and what she want me to help her to go through everything and I will do my best to help her.
At this point in the story Billie Jo doesnt really have any true friends except of course Mad Dog and Arley.
ReplyDeleteIf I was there with Billie Jo I would of course comfort her. I would give her space when she needed it. I would be her shoulder to cry on and her pillow to punch at. But I think the most important thing is to let the wound heal itself. Losing a mother can cause lots of pain. And the pain can only go away if the person chooses it to. So if I would go everyday to Billie Jo and say "Everything is going to be fine," it will keep on reminding her about it.
I would let her cry all her tears out. And when she is ready to stand back up agian, I would support her with all my might.