Describe a time in your life when you felt like you needed to talk and you did not have anyone to listen to you. What were some of your feelings? What would you suggest to someone who might be in a similar situation as you?
Like everyone in this planet, I also need to speak my feelings out. Pablo, my goldfish was my loyal listener, tragically some time ago his life ended.
Everyday when I came home I kicked my shoes off and relieved myself off my jacket and rushed to the glass container filled with water where my best and only true friend lived to empty myself. He would never complain if I came late from school or spend more time with my classmates and he would listen to me for hours without loosing interest, no matter how many times I repeated myself. And when tears fell, he would just glare into my eyes and bubble words trying to calm me.
Almost everyday I wonder what would be if he'd be there on that shelf waiting for me. First it was just a big shock. Later on I felt a lot of sorrow and just didn't want to accept/believe the fact that Palo was out of this world.
But because Pablo had been my way of expresssing myself I had to find alternatives and adapt to the new situation. I started talking to my sister and following her example which was to write a diary, not regulary, just now and then when you felt like you had to clear your mind but couldn't trust anyone. Like Anne Frank used to say: paper is more patient than men.
Honestly i haven't been so extremely lonely that i had to talk to someone. I'm more used to keeping my feelings inside and i do not wear my heart on my shoulder. If god forbid that time comes in my future life i will talk about it to someone who has been through the same issue so he or she would understand and give me some advise on how to overcome it. If someone else is going through the same problem it might be better for them to go to someone who is very understanding and who listens to them, like for example a counselor or maybe their parents.
To be honest, I have never really experienced a time where I felt that I needed to talk to somebody and nobody would listen to me. I do kind of find that this question is a bit personal as its one another's feelings. I do though have advice for people who would be in this situation. Remember that you will never be lonely and ignored. A wise man once told me that People never really listen, they just wait for their turn to speak.
I disagree with everyone who is saying that this is too personal to ask as if. You tell friends and close ones about events and thoughts like these, you are actually releaving yourself of something that may be eating you from the inside. I, for one, have never been in a situation like this as all of my family has always listened to me. Whatever thoughts I may need to talk about I just open up and tell my family. I have never needed to talk about something where no one would listen as my whole family, including my cousins, aunts and uncles, has always been open to everything an like to get together and talk about life.
Yes, Pradeen, best to be open and frank....about everything including feelings. That makes it easier to bear. Lovely that the family is so so understanding and full of warmth.
Yes, Akane - talking and sharing your feelings - good or otherwise always helps to feel good about oneself. There might be someone else out there who is going through similar feelings and will be happy that you stopped to listen.
I've also faced many time when I needed to talk in my life. When my parents divorced, I had no one to talk about it and also someone will know how does it feel when you want to talk about something, but at the same time I don't want to talk. Also I was to scared about how other people will think about my parents.
I became really sensitive at the word 'divorce'. I could talk with my brother, but I couldn't. I just cried and cried, but nothing changed.I just hated my parents. So I started to speak to myself and actually it helped me a lot. When I was alone in my room and saying "It's going to be okay, I'm brave enough to go through this." to my self.
I would suggest to someone who is in similar situation to talk to yourself, but not to often. If you do that, after sometime you can't realize that the situation which you had to pass through is nothing to you. I hope it helps a lot of people.
For me the time when I felt I ahd no one to talk to, was when I had first moved to India. I remember not at all wanting to move here. When I finally got here I really needed someone to talk to. The problem was my parents were always busy and I just started this school and had no one to talk to. I wanted someone to be there and listen to all the emotions rushing through my mind.
I think that main lesson is that even if you have no one to talk to sometimes, its okay. It will make you stronger as a person. And being strong as a person is a quality many people long to have.
Ma'am I think that the question is a bit personal, so if possible can you give us a new question.
ReplyDeletethank you
Can't we just write lies? Please
Deletenot everyone is a lier
Deleteand I think the way you used 'please' was arrogant. and was not needed
DeleteYou know what, Krishna, you could respond to this post by being discreet without revealing all of your innermost feelings.
DeleteLike everyone in this planet, I also need to speak my feelings out. Pablo, my goldfish was my loyal listener, tragically some time ago his life ended.
ReplyDeleteEveryday when I came home I kicked my shoes off and relieved myself off my jacket and rushed to the glass container filled with water where my best and only true friend lived to empty myself. He would never complain if I came late from school or spend more time with my classmates and he would listen to me for hours without loosing interest, no matter how many times I repeated myself. And when tears fell, he would just glare into my eyes and bubble words trying to calm me.
Almost everyday I wonder what would be if he'd be there on that shelf waiting for me. First it was just a big shock. Later on I felt a lot of sorrow and just didn't want to accept/believe the fact that Palo was out of this world.
But because Pablo had been my way of expresssing myself I had to find alternatives and adapt to the new situation. I started talking to my sister and following her example which was to write a diary, not regulary, just now and then when you felt like you had to clear your mind but couldn't trust anyone. Like Anne Frank used to say: paper is more patient than men.
when did pablo die?
DeleteCreativity.. Thanks :)
DeleteCompletely real and believable story. How did you pull this off, Daniela?
DeleteHonestly i haven't been so extremely lonely that i had to talk to someone. I'm more used to keeping my feelings inside and i do not wear my heart on my shoulder. If god forbid that time comes in my future life i will talk about it to someone who has been through the same issue so he or she would understand and give me some advise on how to overcome it. If someone else is going through the same problem it might be better for them to go to someone who is very understanding and who listens to them, like for example a counselor or maybe their parents.
ReplyDeleteGautham,
DeleteSurround yourself with family and friends. That way you will never be lonely. Share, give, get. Good advice you have, here!
To be honest, I have never really experienced a time where I felt that I needed to talk to somebody and nobody would listen to me. I do kind of find that this question is a bit personal as its one another's feelings. I do though have advice for people who would be in this situation. Remember that you will never be lonely and ignored. A wise man once told me that People never really listen, they just wait for their turn to speak.
ReplyDeleteNathan,
DeleteAm not sure how the wise old man's saying fits in here....please clarify.
I disagree with everyone who is saying that this is too personal to ask as if. You tell friends and close ones about events and thoughts like these, you are actually releaving yourself of something that may be eating you from the inside. I, for one, have never been in a situation like this as all of my family has always listened to me. Whatever thoughts I may need to talk about I just open up and tell my family. I have never needed to talk about something where no one would listen as my whole family, including my cousins, aunts and uncles, has always been open to everything an like to get together and talk about life.
ReplyDeleteMaybe Pradeen because you have never felt like that you don't find it personal.
DeleteYes, Pradeen, best to be open and frank....about everything including feelings. That makes it easier to bear. Lovely that the family is so so understanding and full of warmth.
DeleteYes, Akane - talking and sharing your feelings - good or otherwise always helps to feel good about oneself. There might be someone else out there who is going through similar feelings and will be happy that you stopped to listen.
ReplyDeleteI've also faced many time when I needed to talk in my life. When my parents divorced, I had no one to talk about it and also someone will know how does it feel when you want to talk about something, but at the same time I don't want to talk. Also I was to scared about how other people will think about my parents.
ReplyDeleteI became really sensitive at the word 'divorce'. I could talk with my brother, but I couldn't. I just cried and cried, but nothing changed.I just hated my parents. So I started to speak to myself and actually it helped me a lot. When I was alone in my room and saying "It's going to be okay, I'm brave enough to go through this." to my self.
I would suggest to someone who is in similar situation to talk to yourself, but not to often. If you do that, after sometime you can't realize that the situation which you had to pass through is nothing to you. I hope it helps a lot of people.
For me the time when I felt I ahd no one to talk to, was when I had first moved to India. I remember not at all wanting to move here. When I finally got here I really needed someone to talk to. The problem was my parents were always busy and I just started this school and had no one to talk to. I wanted someone to be there and listen to all the emotions rushing through my mind.
ReplyDeleteI think that main lesson is that even if you have no one to talk to sometimes, its okay. It will make you stronger as a person. And being strong as a person is a quality many people long to have.